Are you happy? Are you waiting for a momentous occasion for validation, like a promotion or exam results. Do you say to yourself when this happens or when I achieve this then I’ll be happy. Maybe then you’ve achieved the goal you aspired to achieve but still you aren’t permanently happy. You have the highest highs and the lowest lows, validation didn’t make you happy.

The problem is you can’t buy happiness on a from the shop or collect to through achievement, happiness isn’t a state, it’s an emotion. Our emotions can change from day to day, hour to hour, or minute to minute, so happiness through achievement is unachievable.

Stop waiting for whatever validation you crave and find happiness now for fleeting minutes, hours, days, however long saviour it. That promotion or new car won’t make you happy!

The importance of nothing

When was the last time you did nothing? A day of relaxing and playing video games or commiting to a movie marathon. Is it even possible to do nothing? Our brains are working all the time we never really shut off, we all the hectic life’s and never really find time for nothing.

I’ve had a day of nothing recently, I got absolutely nothing done, no productivity. By the end of the day I felt awful, horrible for not running like crazy having no free time. Is it possible to do nothing and is it important?

I think one of the best ways to do nothing is to plan to do nothing. I’ve talked before about mindfulness or meditation and although this isn’t nothing, it’s the closest we can get to shutting off our minds and feeling calm. I highly recommend it.

I think it is important to take a step back from our chaotic and stressful lives, schedule in some time for the we enjoy to do to relax. Though can we ever really do nothing?

The ninth rule for life

This rule is based off student life but I think it’ll still be applicable to the world of work.

I often despite my best efforts to keep on top of everything, find myself overwhelmed by my workload. I had a habit of leaving all the things I didn’t want to do still last, which normally lead to rushing the work the night before. The things I didn’t want to do were often the most time consuming tasks, this made the day before rush very stressful.

You might, unlike me be a very organised person but I really have to work on it. I’ve always been a hard worker but not an organised one. I’ve found that life is alot more stressful without an organised and achievable plan so I came you with a system to combat my unorganised work style.

What I do to try keep on top of everything and have time for myself is this. As I get new work I write it down in a massive to do list in a watermelon note book. As a stationary lover, nice stationary makes me want to use it, so this helps to stay organied. This list does look incredibly overwhelming so I break it down into priority. Numbering your neverending to do lists keeps everything straight in your head and makes tackling the list much easier.

I then start assigning different tasks to different days, taking into account what I’m doing that day. I primarily focus on the current day, by making a to do list for everything I want to get done that day. I then put a little star next to the tasks that have to be completed. The tasks I don’t get done, I just carry over to the next day.

Staying organised helps you stay positive and prevents you from becoming overwhelmed!!

I went makeup free for 3 months

I’ve written a blog post similar to this before focusing on the importance of confidence and self-love of your own skin. How you shouldn’t feel like you have to be perfect to be accepted into society. (If your interested check out ‘The sixth rule of life’)

Today I would like to talk about my personal journey and experience of going makeup free for 3 months. I set myself this target back at the start of June and was determined to stick to it. It turned out to be harder than I had first expected. For example,when I’d had a bad night sleep, the deep purple rings around my eyes were for all to see, or when I had a breakout there wasn’t a choice to cover it up with ample amounts of concealer. To start of with, this made me feel more self conscious but after I while I began to feel so much happier in my own skin!

I was surprised by the change, I had less breakouts and my skin felt healthier and brighter. I focused more on my skincare throughout this period and found it much more rewarding than applying makeup. It was a self-journey I was glad I went on as it gave me the opportunity to connect with myself and taught me to love my imperfections.

When the three months were up I was unsure what I wanted to do, I knew I would never feel the pressure to wear makeup again but wasn’t sure if going 100% makeup free would be something I wanted to do long term. I started putting a few makeup items into my routine once in a while to work out what felt right.

I finally decided to only wear makeup to accentuate my features not to cover them. I’m a fan of eyeshadows, highlights and lip products primarily but I will switch it up for special occasions. I still go many days a week makeup free and am just as confident to do this as before.

I would highly recommend giving this a go for how ever long you want (even one day). Use makeup as a way to express yourself, never let it cover who you are!!

What does it mean to be a feminist?

Feminists are misunderstood as a male hating group of women who post all over Instagram “The future is female” or other catchy slogans. I’m not going to apologise for being a proud feminist as this isn’t what it means to be a feminist.

True feminists strive for equality between the genders. This means despite feminism primarily focusing around women and their battle for equality, it’s about men too. Men also have stereotypes fixed upon them that need to be shaken and men can also be feminists. I think the “fem” in feminist scares men into separating themselves from the group by forming such groups as “Meninist”.

This doesn’t mean all men disassociate themselves with the fight for equality, there are many male feminists yet there should be more. The misinterpretation of feminism mainly comes from the media but this doesn’t mean there aren’t amazing feminists out there spreading positive messages. Many celebrities are making a point by calling out photoshopped and unrealistic images of themselves. I love the speeches Emma Watson made promoting HeForShe and all her work to make true feminists intentions well known.

Feminism is just striving for equality between the genders, I am not at all ashamed to be a feminist!!

The eighth rule for life

This next rule applies to everyone including myself, as I don’t always practice what I preach and it is this, it is ok to not be ok.

Personally, I sometimes find myself falling into a mindset which includes ignoring my feelings, as if this will make my problems go away! I think there is a massive difference between having a positive outlook on life and trying to ignore what you’re really feeling by pushing your thoughts to the back of your mind.

Though I do believe maintaining a positive mindset is something we should all always try to do, you first have to let those feelings in and express them before you can regain your positive mentality. When I say express yourself I mean having a heart to heart with someone you trust like a close friend or family member. This will really help you let out all the emotions you’ve been holding back and give you a chance to gain perspective on the situation. It’ll make you feel supported and loved and will remind you that your not alone. I do believe in the corny old saying ‘a problem shared is a problem halved’. Don’t be afraid to share, it always helps!

This doesn’t mean you’ll feel ok straight away and don’t put that pressure on yourself, it’s 100% ok to not feel ok. Right now no matter how you’re feeling, you’re enough. Right now, there’s nothing you need to change!!

The seventh rule for life

Is your glass half full or half empty? We’ve all heard it before probably after you’ve had a long rant about how your boss is annoying you and that helpful friend pops up and asks “is your glass half empty?”. At this moment it may seem a little irritating but the message behind it is so important.

It’s totally ok to be annoyed when things don’t go your way but after you’ve finished your rant, you need to appreciate the things you do have. Gratitude is so good for your mental health and the people around you. Realising what you have is being optimistic and this gives you hope for a better future.

Once in a while it’s important to reflect on what you have and appreciate the people around you!!